My Moment of Truth

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I have come to realise that there is no sense worrying about my children:
I have learnt that they are going to catch colds and flu and all sorts of viruses and bacteria
I have learnt that they are going to fall over, trip up and walk into stationery objects
I have learnt that they are going to scrap knees, bump heads, chip teeth and break bones
I have learnt that they are going to feel intimidated, bullied, left out and ignored
I have learnt that they will make their own choices no matter the warning
I have learnt that they will learn the same lesson I did by making their own mistakes

I have come to realise that I cannot protect mychildren from everything life throws at them

But I can wrap my arms around them and comfort them
I can be their sounding board and punching bag
I can be their shoulder to cry on and ear to listen
I can point out the life lesson in the experience
I can be their doctor and nurse at any time day or night
I can try to catch them when they fall
I can give advice knowing that one day they just may listen

I have come to realise that or though these are my children they are not me.
I cannot fix in them what I deem wrong with me.
I can only marvel at their perfection and love them as I am!

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